Negative talk and learning

Recently I became aware of the way we frequently use the word "cheat." I would say it, and heard others say it, regarding solving puzzles; and I have an all-in-one sheet of musical mnemonics that I referred to as a "cheat sheet" when my piano students used it for their written work.

I've instead started referring to "needing help," and the "cheat sheet" is now a "help sheet." What's more, I routinely put the help sheet in sight when we start written work in lessons. The attitude shift is amazing! Students who "hated" written exercises now tackle them willingly, and even find them fun. And... they are referring to the help sheet less and less often.

And personally, I enjoy my crossword puzzles even more now that I don't beat myself up for clicking "check grid" or looking up answers. I do tell when I've used help-- partly to spread the idea that accepting help is okay, even on a crossword puzzle or Wordle!