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Jan. 19th, 2022 08:42 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kayreFormer church's annual meeting is coming up soon. I had an opportunity today to look at the annual report that will be shared there. I saw this in the Pastor's Report:
“It was hard to say goodbye to someone with whom I worked closely. Even harder when the leaving represents at least on some level a failure on my part. I don’t know if the outcome would have been different if I had acted differently or sooner. But maybe there would have been a little less wear and tear on everyone. I know we all tried to work through various issues over several months. And I am thankful Carol’s new position is a good one. But it is still personally disappointing."
I'm stunned and kind of disgusted. First of all, she's never admitted to me that she felt any responsibility at all. Secondly, it's pretty bizarre to put this in an annual report. But I'm glad of it, as now I can be open about leaving because of a conflict, not as a career move. And I wonder how the tech folk will feel about it, as it really will be quite obvious that the conflict must have been with them. There simply wasn't anyone else involved in worship for a lot of last year.
“It was hard to say goodbye to someone with whom I worked closely. Even harder when the leaving represents at least on some level a failure on my part. I don’t know if the outcome would have been different if I had acted differently or sooner. But maybe there would have been a little less wear and tear on everyone. I know we all tried to work through various issues over several months. And I am thankful Carol’s new position is a good one. But it is still personally disappointing."
I'm stunned and kind of disgusted. First of all, she's never admitted to me that she felt any responsibility at all. Secondly, it's pretty bizarre to put this in an annual report. But I'm glad of it, as now I can be open about leaving because of a conflict, not as a career move. And I wonder how the tech folk will feel about it, as it really will be quite obvious that the conflict must have been with them. There simply wasn't anyone else involved in worship for a lot of last year.
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Date: 2022-01-20 11:07 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-01-20 01:00 pm (UTC)I do not think Pastor has full use of her faculties, and I am very glad you will be well clear when the house of cards collapses.
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Date: 2022-01-20 01:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-01-21 12:52 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-01-21 03:26 am (UTC)That feels like a weird thing to put in an annual report. She needed to either say more about what she/the congregation learned and will approach differently now, or say a lot less.
It also reads a little blame-y to me -- "we all tried to work through issues" is, um, less than clear about the source of those issues, or specifically that you were not the source of them. Somebody who doesn't know could read that as "Carol was having a conflict with someone and I didn't help enough". Bah! I'm so glad you're out of there!
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Date: 2022-01-21 12:48 pm (UTC)Yes but also this is, as I understand it, a cogent summary of what happened. The trick is not to put the blame on Carol - and that Pastor failed to do. Very problematic on so many levels. Again, so glad Carol is clear of all of it.
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Date: 2022-01-21 01:22 pm (UTC)